Self-Love

Probably the biggest tragedy of a man’s life is that he has to live a complete uncertain life. Look at human birth; uncertainty starts from this particular point. When you are born, you aren’t in a state that you can recognize someone. You are told that someone is your father or someone is your mother. It means that you start your life with a complete faith on something which is actually the centre of your life. Now same is the case in almost half of your life as you have to be entangled with default relationships throughout your life. Apart from your default ones, you come across a series of friendships, love, marriage which breed many other relationships carrying multidimensional standpoints.

Shakespeare in his As You Like It laments saying ‘most friendship is feigning, most loving mere folly’ but in the same song, he ends up with ‘then heigh-ho, the holly, this life is most jolly.’  There is no way of denying the fact that life itself is a blessing.

Look around, you basically live on the status of relationships be it familial, social or professional. And every single relationship needs a perfect nurture in a strategic way to continue fruitfully. Now do such relationships find their own uncontrolled ways of forwarding? Of course, no. Think about your smart phone. The relationship between you and your phone can be of two ways: you control your phone or your phone controls you. Though embedded on beliefs, it is really tough to understand the zigzag corners of relationships. Actually to understand others or other relationships, you need to learn how to love yourself. Yes, that’s the point you have to come up with. Shannon Kaiser in her book Self-Love Experiment, steers you to shake off your fear-based thoughts and shows you how you can really fall in love with yourself. This book offers you a journey where you feel the taste of self-love and as an obvious outcome, you will be in the world of self-acceptance. Kaiser says, “…. even when you are breaking down, crying, sad, or feeling lonely and consumed with worry and self-hate, you stand by you. You do not abandon yourself.”

Don’t forget that this is your life, you yourself are the director of your ‘own’. You will control all the relationships encircling you. I can name another book titled Get Out of Your Own Way: A Skeptic’s Guide to Growth and Fulfillment by Dave Hollis. In the book, Dave talks about his own experiences, rather I should say, his fighting with alcohol, problems in conjugal life, paternal insecurity etc. It helps you look back your own life with its everyday struggling. The book hits at the door of our concerns on status-quo and helps you drop fake concepts about the planning of life. Dave says, “Don’t give up the power you have to be who you were meant to be because of what people who are not thinking about you might think. These people you’re worried about? Their fulfillment does not hinge on your success. It’s your dream, and because of that you have to make a choice. Are you going to keep people who are just casually part of your life happy, or are you going to be fulfilled?”

Let’s taste the spice of life!

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